Story.1

You tell a friend something personal and ask your friend not to discuss it with anyone else. However, a couple of weeks later, you find out that a lot of people know about it. You ask your friend why she/he told other people and your friend says: “Well, I don’t know, it just came up and I didn’t think it was a big deal.”

A.Why do you think your friend shared your secret when you told them not to

share it with anyone?

A1.My friend wanted to expose my secret.

A2.My friend wanted to impress other people with their secret knowledge about me.

A3.My friend forgot that this was an important secret for me.

A4.My friend wanted me to feel stupid for asking to keep my secret.

B.How likely is it that you would be angry if this happened to you?

C.How likely is it that you would be upset with yourself if this happened to you?

Story.2

Imagine that you are in a karate class competition and you have to demonstrate your abilities to your instructor. You are matched up to “fight” with someone in the class who you do not know well. While you are being evaluated, your karate classmate hits you in a way other than the way you were taught and you are hurt.

A.Why do you think your karate classmate hit you in a way other than the way

you were taught?

A1.My karate classmate wanted to physically hurt me.

A2.My karate classmate wanted to win the match.

A3.My karate classmate did it by accident.

A4.My karate classmate wanted to make me look "bad".

B.How likely is it that you would be angry if this happened to you?

C.How like love is it that you would be embarrassed if this happened to you?

Story.3 

Early one morning (at “rush hour”) you go to a busy local coffee shop to get a cup of coffee. While you are waiting, someone you see at the coffee shop regularly, but do not know personally, cuts in the line in front of you.

A.Why do you think this person cut in line in front of you?

A1.This person wanted to make me wait longer to get my coffee. 

A2.This person was in a hurry to get in to work. 

A3.This person didn’t realize that he (or she) cut in line in front of me. A4.This person wanted me to feel unimportant. 

B.How likely is it that you would be angry if this happened to you? 

C.How likely is it that you would be upset with yourself if this happened to you?

Story.4 

Imagine that you and a group of your co-workers went on a business trip. While at the hotel, waiting to meet a customer, you stop to buy a cup of coffee. Suddenly, one of your co-workers bumps your arm and spills your coffee over your shirt. The coffee is hot and your shirt is wet.

A.Why do you think your coworker bumped your arm making you spill your coffee? 

A1.My co-worker wanted to burn me with the hot coffee.

A2.My co-worker was focused on the meeting.

A3.My co-worker did it by accident.

A4.My co-worker wanted to make me look “bad” to the customer.

B.How likely is it that you would be angry if this happened to you?

C.How likely is it that you would be embarrassed if this happened to you?

Story.5 

You make plans with one of your friends to go on a short trip for the weekend. You’re very excited about these plans and have been looking forward to the trip. However, at the last minute, your friend says that he (or she) no longer wants to go on the trip and has made plans with another friend for the weekend.

A.Why do you think your friend said he/she no longer wanted to go on the trip? 

A1.My friend doesn’t want to be with me.  

A2.My friend wanted to do something else.  

A3.My friend forgot about the plans we made.  

A4.My friend wanted me to feel unimportant.  

B.How likely is it that you would be angry if this happened to you?  

C.How likely is it that you would be upset with yourself if this happened to you?

Story.6 

One day at work you decide to go to the cafeteria for lunch. After you purchase your lunch, you notice that the seating area is very crowded and no empty tables are available. You notice one of your co-workers sitting alone at a small table and ask if you can join him (or her) for lunch. Your co-worker says “no”.

A.Why do you think your coworker said “no”? 

A1.My co-worker wanted to exclude me.  

A2.My co-worker wanted to be alone at that time.  

A3.My co-worker was “lost in thought” and didn’t realize I had asked to join him (or her).  

A4.My co-worker wanted me to feel bad.  

B.How likely is it that you would be angry if this happened to you?  

C.How likely is it that you would be embarrassed if this happened to you?

Story.7

Imagine that you go to the first meeting of a club you want to join. You would like to make friends with the other people in the club. You walk up to some of the other club members and say, “Hi!” but they don’t say anything back.

A. Why do you think the club members didn’t say anything back to you? 

A1.The club members wanted to ignore me. 

A2.The club members were more interested in talking among themselves. 

A3.The club members didn’t hear me say “Hi”. 

A4.The club members wanted me to feel unimportant. 

B.How likely is it that you would be angry if this happened to you? 

C.How likely is it that you would be embarrassed if this happened to you?

Story.8 

You are driving in to work one day and just after you pull into a parking space, another car pulls up into the space to your right. As the person in the other car, a co-worker, gets out of his/her car, their car door hits your passenger side door and leaves a scratch on your car. The person walks away as you get out of your car.

A.Why do you think this person acted this way? 

A1.This person wanted to damage my car. 

A2.This person was in a hurry to get in to work. 

A3.This person scratched my car by accident and didn’t notice. 

A4.This person wanted me to feel unimportant. 

B.How likely is it that you would be angry if this happened to you?

C.How likely is it that you would be upset with yourself if this happened to you?